To Take or Not to Take…

I am talking about chances here. After all, this is what life is all about, right? Decisions, chances. That is basically how we build our lives: we make it and shape it into what we want it to be. Actually it is simple… on the surface. But we face so many crossroads (and blocks), and to survive we need to decide which path to take, and each path will lead us to a different destination - walking down on one path may take you to a completely different destination than the one that you might reach, if you have taken another path. If you think about it like this, it is a little bit scary, isn't it? How you may end up differently, if you do B, instead of A. 

How your own decision impacts your life. 

And who you are. 

That is why, we have so many regrets in our lives. They say, “Live without regrets!”, but that's completely bullshit. With so many life has to offer, with all those choices we have to make everyday, with all its bends and crossroads and forks and doors and slopes, we can never be free of regret. 

No matter how insignificant the regret seems to be, no matter how faint the impression, or the trail your regret has managed to leave on you. 

Now, this topic could also breach to something else: unfairness, which stems from jealousy. 

I came across this in a short story written by Haruki Murakami titled “Shinagawa Monkey”, in which the main character, Mizuki Osawa, leads a dull life that if one listens to her reciting her life history, he may yawn in utter boredom. This Mizuki, she never gets jealous over somebody else. She understands enough that everyone in this world, each of us, every individual, leads a different life and it is just so strange to start comparing one’s life with another. As she comes to accept this fact, she also comes to think that jealousy is unnecessary.

Well, that is also correct, in a sense that we all live a different life so why don’t we come to a mutual understanding then, that what you have – what she has, what he has, what they have – what we all have is ours. Our respective matters.  

But anyway. I have always believed, and will always believe, that our future is defined from our present. By the decisions we take. If you grasp the principle, you should be able to hold onto it. If you are worried by your unforeseen future, rather than putting yourself to dwell in the uncertainty of the unforeseen future, you’d better start investing your energy and all your thoughts in this present moment.

Right?